I wrote about this topic a long time ago. So I decided it is time to ‘renew’ it.
Sex and love… should be connected, according to the prevailing societal view on sex.
Yet, I know for some people (like me), sex is just a physical thing.
Even when I’m with my lover I don’t consider sex as ‘love-making’.
Honestly, I never considered sex as ‘love-making’, so that explains maybe why I never saw sex work as a ‘taboo’-thing. I can’t tie sex and love together in my mind, although I know they go together. It just doesn’t work like that for me.
I love to enjoy physical sensation, but my pleasure can also be derived from going out to dinner, drinking a nice wine, cuddling, dancing…and so forth.
That being said; I’ve never had sex out of love.
At the moment I have a great lover, but I enjoy our philosophical talks and cuddling as much, or even more, than sex. Falling asleep in his arms after a warm shower, that’s what I call the most intimate thing, not ‘sex’.
Another ‘problem’ I have is that I find sex really hilarious. When you take away all the societal, emotional and material adornments, imagining sex is really funny. We’re really no different than animals in that way.
Sometimes, when I’m having sex with my lover, I have to make an effort not to laugh.
‘Don’t laugh too hard….don’t laugh to hard…’ I think my lover would find it really strange if I bursted out laughing while sex. I don’t want him to think I ridicule his performance, because he’s really good in bed.
And that’s what most people don’t like to see. Without the right ‘adornments’, a lot of people think it’s filthy and immoral. And that’s the problem with prostitution.
Prostitution is clear about sex. ‘Sex in exchange of money’. It couldn’t be a more clear arrangement. And sex without adornment…Who wants to engage in that, voluntarily?
It must be a crazy or broken person.